While I was at my 'sanctuary' manning my business, I was at the same time holding Star Two. Well, I am very sure that most of us do what I am doing...killing time while sitting there or should I say no idling away and making full use of our precious time.
I was attracted to this article and I gather that it would be good to extract it and put it here in my blog.
ALWAYS ON HIS/HER MIND
Uncontrolled raging can pose a destructive force.
Is there such a thing as sexual addiction? Or could it be a convenient excuse for philandering husbands, Lotharios and porn purveyors to justify their behaviour?
According to clinical psychologist Datuk Dr. Mat Saat Mohd Baki, the nomenclature "addiction" is not accepted by their profession based on its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. He prefers to use the term sexual hyperactivity or hypersexuality.
University Sains Malaysia psychologist and criminologist Gheshina Aya Mat Saat points outthat some people consider those with sexual problems as having criminal inclinations. They may engage in activities such as frequenting sex workers or massage parlours, going to strip clubs obsessively, indulging in Internet and telephone sex, and having serial affairs. They may be in short-term marriages with different partners, and feel driven to have sex many times a day.
"Both viewpoints use sexual addiction as terminology and they refer to loss of sexual self-control, rather than as a moralistic stance against such behaviour. What is more important is that these behaviours result in harm to the people with such "addictions", their partners, or all parties," notes Geshina.
Harm could be in the form of physical and/or mental pain, financial or productivity loss, lapses in concentration, less time for family, work and relationships, and lost opportunity in other meaningful activities, says Dr Mat Saat.
He says there is still a lot of speculation on what hypersexuality is, and if it is a psychological condition or physiological one, or a combination of both.
The root of the problem is still unknown, says Geshina, adding that questions remain about how people become addicted to drugs. Both she and Dr Mat Saat rattle off a list of "symptoms" of hypersexual behaviour. Alarm bells should ring if you or someone you know:
1. Can't make it through the day without fantasising about, planning and engaging in risky sexual encounters.
2. Use the Internet to get sexually stimulated at work or at home.
3. Have a secret collection of porn material.
4. Have more sexual partners than he/she can remember.
5. Finds sexual experiences frequently disappointing.
6. Can't banish certain sexual thoughts.
7. Lost a job or relationship due to sexual activities.
8. Feel under intense pressure and completely controlled by sexual desires.
9. Suffer serious losses - normally money or time better spent on something else - because of sexual behaviour.
10. Use sex to feel better.
11. Lie to people he/she cares about regarding his/her sexual activities.
Some may agree that some of the items on the list are not indicative of abnormal sexual behaviour.
"A lot of problems in which the brain is obsessed with one activity - whether it is sex, drugs or alchohol. - tend to occur together," points out Dr. Mat Saat.
Problems that accompany sexual hyperactivity include depression, anxiety, mood disorder, narcissistic personality disorder and manic-depression. Some individuals suffer from two or more conditions simultaneously, but traits of addiction are often confused with those of these disoders, says Dr Mat Saat.
While psychologists and psychiatrists contend that hypersexuality is not gender-specific, Geshina says in Malaysia there have been no studies on the subject. The only related study here involved sexual offenders in prisons.
As to treatment of the condition, Dr Mat Saat says behavourial therapy with a trained and qualified therapist is required. It can be done individually or as a group (current method being used in Malaysian prisons).
In the United States, treatment includes joining a group much like Alchoholics Anonymous. that includes getting a sponsor, doing a 12-step programme and abstaining from sex. The "no sex" rule is normally for a period of six weeks.
"Generally speaking, the object of treatment is to have the "addict" back to accepted behaviour that is not harmful to anyone.
"And if you suspect you have a problem, seek professional diagnosis," says Geshina.
Author of this article is S.S YOGA
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